Post-Traumatic Divorce Disorder™
A condition brought about by Divorce.
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Commonly seen as
1. an unwillingness or an inability to let go of the past
2. an inability to focus on the future without negative feelings
3. daily or weekly focus on exacting revenge
4. gossiping, whining and complaining about an Ex
5. using children to punish an Ex/be at the receiving end of punishment
6. using money as a way to punish an Ex/be at the receiving end of staying stuck
7. a pattern of confusion and an unwillingness to take personal responsibility for one’s part in the breakup of the marriage/ over responsibility and self-blame for the breakup of the marriage
8. an unwillingness or inability to take care of one’s appearance and health, career momentum, and financial security
9. a fear of dating, intimacy or marrying again
10. an unwillingness or inability to stop fighting with an Ex whether in your mind or in reality."

 
Are you suffering from Post-Traumatic Divorce Disorder™?

 
Are you being a victim?

Do your thoughts and beliefs about what happened in your past marriage continue to justify why you can’t move forward in your life? *

     
 
Are you unable to let go of the story of your marriage and divorce, and the circumstances that you’re now in? *

     
 
Are you still trying to win the approval of your Ex or those who knew you when? *

     
 
When you think about the future, are you fearful, exhausted or overwhelmed?

Do you believe that you're not lovable enough for someone to be with you? *

     
 
Do you find it difficult to focus on yourself away from the story of your past toward creating a future that you want? *

     
 
Are you afraid that if you create a happy future for yourself, someone will take it away from you again or that you don't deserve it? *

     
 
Imagining ways to get back at your Ex-becomes part of everyday conversation.

Do you spend your quiet moments visualizing how to ruin your Ex's property, get their money, have them fired or get them into trouble with the law or the IRS? *

     
 
Do you imagine running into your Ex on a date and ruining the relationship with mean-spirited information? *

     
 
Do you find yourself gathering information against your Ex to share with friends or at parent-teacher meetings? Other professional services for your children? *

     
 
Do you continue to spend your quiet time comparing your Ex and what they're doing with your circumstances? *

     
 
Are part of all family events spent catching up on what the Ex is doing or not doing causing you to play the comparison game? *

     
 
Do your friends continue to keep you aware of what your Ex is up to, how they're entertaining or socializing and whom they're dating? *

     
 
Your children are not safe from your anger and resentments.

Because of your envious reactions, are your kids afraid to tell you what they do with their other parent? *

     
 
If your children express any hint of discomfort or unhappiness when seeing their other parent, do you blow it out of proportion and create a dramatic scene? *

     
 
Do you try to prohibit your Ex from doing what they want with your children as a way of controlling their time together? *

     
 
Do you swallow your voice rather than insist on being a part of your children's lives because it seems easier than demanding your right to be an equal and loving co-parent. *

     
 
Do you find yourself making up excuses about money instead of honoring the agreement and being flexible?

Do you nickel and dime your Ex because you can? *

     
 
Do you unilaterally refuse to give any additional monies for the kids to do new activities because they're not in the original agreement? *

     
 
Does it take you months to fulfill debts and pay for kids' activities putting stress on the other parent and your kids? *

     
 
Are you afraid of asking for additional monies and/or equal help from your child's other parent out of fear of creating an argument or being taken back to court? *

     
 
Are you on it? If your Ex had been anything other than what they were, do you still believe your life would be perfect?

Do you refuse to look at your part in the breakup? *

     
 
Do you find yourself blaming everything that's gone wrong and continues to go wrong on your Ex? *

     
 
Are you exhausting to others? Do you catch yourself talking on and on about your experience with relationships? *

     
 
Have you let yourself go?

Do you avoid eating well or exercising because, "why bother"? *

     
 
Are you blaming how you look on the fact that you're single and alone or overworked and stressed out? *

     
 
Can you recall the last time you cared about how you looked or took care of your health? *

     
 
You haven’t been intimate with someone new since your divorce.

Are you afraid of getting emotionally intimate with another human being? *

     
 
Are you too vulnerable to trust being naked with someone else? *

     
 
As you go about your day, would you rather hide than be seen by a potential suitor? *

     
 
You use your Ex as an excuse for your moods.

Are you free from worry, stress, and anxiety about your new life? *

     
 
Do you still find "innocent" ways to enrage your Ex or to blame them for your negative feelings? *

     
 
Would you describe yourself as addicted to your Ex... Do you use their positive or negative attention as a way to get your 'fix' met by them? *

     
 
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Now that you've considered where you are post-divorce, would you like a phone call to discuss options to work with me? *

 
Why or why not? *

Thank you.
Moving on can be scary.
Working through the areas where you didn’t live up to being your best and mourning the loss of your marriage (because of who you were being or not being) takes a safe time and place. doingDivorce™ School is designed to help you do just that.

Don't bring the pain of your past into your future!
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